I find inspiration in strange places. And, it almost always motivates me in strange ways, pushes me in a way that might not make sense to anyone else.
Today, I have a few stories to illustrate these points. First, though, I should say that I meant to upload a different post before this one, but it’s saved on a computer that is, right now, out of battery power and sitting in my parents’ living room. So, you’ll be getting a daily dose of inspiration today—but, the good news is, this post and that post actually work decently as a duo, so maybe I’ll put that one up later this week.
Friday night, I came to my parents’ house to watch over my dogs because they (my parents) are out of town this weekend. I had been in Quincy earlier in the day, and drove into school for a conference on narrative non-fiction, and then drove back to my parents’ in Quincy pretty much right after the conference ended for the day (it resumed Saturday, and I’ll get to that, because it leads me to part two of this post).
I should take a step back. I’ve been relatively busy lately, running around interviewing people for stories I need to write, going to classes, writing those stories, and then doing other things, such as hobnobbing with established narrative non-fiction writers. What’s gone by the wayside during this time is exercise. Another step back is that I don’t have a ton of money right now, so I’m being extra frugal with eating out and that sort of thing (or, I’m trying to be extra frugal, but not really being that frugal). But, still, I’ve been eating a lot of crap. And I haven’t been working out at all, and it was getting to a point at which I was starting to feel bad about these things. My body’s just a little doughier than normal (or, I at least perceive it as doughier), and I just know I should be doing something more.
On top of this, I’ve promised my sister that we would do a triathlon together sometime in July. So, it’s getting to the point where I should be starting to work out in preparation for that. That adds to the self-frustration. But, mostly it’s the doughy thing. To get to back to Friday, I was starving that night, because I forgot to eat lunch before I went to the narrative conference, and that took all afternoon. So, I decided to get a burrito on my way home. I ate the burrito at about 8 p.m., then like eight 150 calorie chocolate-chip cookies by 9:30 p.m. Then my computer, which had been playing episodes of some half-decent sitcom, ran out of batteries.
Friday night isn’t much for television, so I ended up on the CBS College Sports channel, which was playing the national championships for women’s triathlon. Perfect. I watched with rapt attention as one girl with an incredibly taut midsection (she was racing in a sort of sports bikini) overtook another on the bike portion, and then held her lead through the run and won the race. She was from the University of Florida, an exercise physiology major, and was, according to the announcers, going to be starting her PhD in the fall, in order to do something ridiculously charitable, like helping kids with muscular dystrophy or something.
There’s nothing conventionally exciting about watching triathlon on television. After the swim portion (which I always happen to miss whenever I catch a triathlon on TV) it’s just people out on the road by themselves moving their legs repetitively, either on foot or on bike. There’s no way to judge their speed or their effort level, really, until they get to the end and collapse from dehydration. There’s also no way to tell how hot it was (and, this particular race was in Tuscaloosa, Alabama, and was definitely hot). Still, whenever I watch one of these on TV, I transplant myself into those bodies with incredibly taut midsections and think about the possibilities.
I’ve only once come close to that sort of physique, in October of 2010. It was the combination of coming off a cycle of P90X, in which I was admittedly, in pretty good shape, and pretty strong. But, then I had my wisdom teeth out and couldn’t really eat for a couple weeks. Once I started to recover, I was near a mirror with no shirt on at my parents’ house one day and thought, “Wow, I’m getting kind of scary looking.” I had dropped nearly 15 pounds and weighed less than I had at pretty much anytime after sophomore year of high school. It was pretty amazing, and it was probably the weight I would operate at if I, too, were an elite triathlete.
Now, I’m not an elite triathlete, nor do I want to be. But, seeing those incredibly fit women truly push themselves in the heat of the southern sun, for stakes that weren’t all that consequential (I mean, it’s kind of a fringe sport, and they would only be seen on some minor cable sports channel on a Friday night, when only slobs like me would be watching) made me come to this conclusion: “I’ve got to stop eating all these cookies and start running.”
I can’t say I’ve followed through on that vow yet—inspiration does not necessarily beget acting on that inspiration. But, it’s a good first step, and I’ll probably head out for a little jog later today.
Now, for the second round of inspiration. This is two-tiered, although both tiers come from the same source. I’ll start with the less consequential.
Saturday, I attended the second day of the narrative non-fiction conference, held by the journalism department at my school. The audience included people from all over—there was one guy from the Des Moines Register that I met, and then there was some Danish guy there, and a few local freelancers, among many others. It was set up as a mixture of panels and keynote speeches. The first keynote speech on Saturday was from the Managing Editor of the New York Times, Jill Abramson. The second was from Susan Orlean, who writes for the New Yorker and has also written several books, including The Orchid Thief, which was made into the movie “Adaptation” (I haven’t seen this movie, but I’ve heard that Orlean herself is played by Meryl Streep in it). She was energetic and very upbeat in general, and surprisingly honest. Both of these women sat on panels later in the day too.
The final panel included a legendary journalist named Gay Talese. He’s often associated with the “New Journalists,” the same class that included Tom Wolfe and Norman Mailer, and Joan Didion—although Talese really rejects any formal association with these people. He says, essentially, that any similarity in approach was simply a coincidence. Talese has written many books, but he’s most famous in journalism schools for what some people call the greatest profile ever written, “Frank Sinatra has a Cold,” which appeared in Esquire back in the day (I don’t really know when, but it was toward the end of Sinatra’s heyday, once the Beatles and the Stones were growing in popularity). Talese is usually much more interested in ordinary people’s lives, and didn’t really want to do the Sinatra piece. So, he focused his reporting on the people who were kind of tangentially exposed to Sinatra—the woman who maintained his wigs, a guy in a pool hall who almost got in a fight with Sinatra and his bodyguards, etc. Also, Sinatra was such a grump and, since he had a cold, was extra grumpy, that he wouldn’t give Talese an interview—so, he was kind of forced to use the sphere around Sinatra to propel the piece.
Anyway, the point is, the guy’s a legend. In every picture I’ve seen of him, he’s wearing a custom-fitted, three-piece suit and Italian fedora. He’s a journalist, but he could pass for an unknown member of the Rat Pack. Apparently, this is how he always dresses, and has from a young age. His father was a tailor in Ocean City, New Jersey and instilled his fashion sense in him early.
This brings me to my first point. In the course of Talese’s keynote speech, the last of the day, he made the point that, even if you’re a reporter, presenting yourself well, in manner and appearance, goes a long way toward showing people you respect them. Selfishly, I was very happy when he said this, because I looked around at some of the other students, and working reporters, in the audience who were wearing jeans and were unshaven and all that. I was pretty decked out—not a three-piece suit, and no tie, but I had on nice slacks, a dress shirt and a suit jacket.
Where was the inspiration? Well, I was so jazzed up from his wearing the suit so well and talking about how being well-dressed can help someone do his job that I decided, once the session was over, to drive directly to Men’s Warehouse and have myself fitted for the tuxedo I’ll be wearing at a friend’s wedding in July. See, this is what I’m saying about strange motivation leading to even stranger actions.
But, there is a little more that came from this than just my getting measured for a tux. The point he made is one that I agree with. I wouldn’t say all, but I would say some of my fellow students have me wondering about their professionalism. I guess maybe people approach school differently from how I do, and that’s okay. For one thing, most other students actually make friends during school, and I tend to stick to business. It’s hard for me to make a case that they’re totally in the wrong there.
But, since they say this is a competitive business, I sometimes think about the things that might separate me from those around me, and I always come back to the same things, no matter what setting I’m in. One is work ethic—too many people around my age talk about how busy they are instead of just doing what they need to. That’s a syndrome that I hope is drilled out of every last one of them when they start working. I’m of the mind that it’s better to just do what you need to instead of complaining about it. This is something I heard somewhere else, though I can’t remember where: the only way through it is through it. (I would add, “So you might as well keep your mouth shut along the way,” hah.)
Another of these “separating factors” pertains more specifically to Talese’s point—I try to be very nice to everyone I come across as I’m working or in school, and treat them with respect. Some days I fall short, and sometimes it harder than others, but in general, I think this helps. I mean, sometimes it does lead to crazy, goose-loving activists yammering on for an hour to you, as it did recently. It is tricky, though, to do that and be kind of brutally honest when it comes time to put together the story, but as long as you’re fair throughout, no one can complain much.
Let me get back to inspiration, though, because I’m spinning off a little here. In another portion of Talese’s speech, he was talking about how when he left the New York Times, where he had worked for about 10 years, he found himself really interested in writing about the people he met there at the city desk—the reporters, the copy editors, etc. He said so many segments of the world are full of liars, but when he looked out over the city desk at all the people who worked there, he didn’t see a single one. The people there tried their damndest to tell the truth, to be objective. They did it every day and thought that truth and fairness were paramount. Talese said he was really damn proud to have worked among those people, and to have stayed in an industry with so many people like that for so long. Now, I’m not sure, but I think he almost started tearing up at this point of his speech, which was surprising because he’s super-poised, and he’s got a little of that old journalist crustiness about him. Whether he was tearing up or not, his voice raised and cracked a little—it was clear that he meant what he was saying.
This, above everything that happened at the conference, was inspirational. It’s an extraordinary way to try to make a living is what Talese said, and it was evident in the way many of the other guests at the conference spoke. These, of course, were people of exceptional talent, who had made it through the tough years of not having much money to speak of. And, to a large degree, they were speaking to people like my fellow students, who ask questions, over and over, that go like this: “So, how do you do this, and have a life too? What’s the work-life balance like? How are we supposed to get out from under all this debt?”
I admit that I ask these questions too, though usually not out loud and never to a professor in front of a whole class. Mostly, it’s because I know the answers to them. This isn’t a field you enter because you want to go to happy hour at 5:30 p.m. on Thursdays. Especially early on, there isn’t much balance to be had. And, getting out from the debt? Well, that just is going to take time, and it’s going to suck for five years or more, but by that time you’ll have a decent salary and enough of it paid off that you should be able to get yourself squared away. The answer to all these questions is the same: you can’t be easy on yourself, and you have to work hard, and you have to sacrifice some things. (Coincidentally, I’m pretty sure it’s the same answer for success in any field.)
I don’t know if I can really say it in a way that explains it clearly, but it’s really bizarre to me to have committed to this. I don’t know if really do this sort of thing often or even naturally—I get the sense that lately, I’ve tended run from things, or toward things, or whatever, and I don’t stick around long enough to see them through the harder times. I’m still less than a year into this, and there have already been hard times, but I’m still here and still wanting to go through the next rough patch when it comes, and hope to be a little better with each assignment. And, I think the thing that keeps me in that position, and that I hope will keep me in it forever, is that pride that Talese still feels as a 79-year-old who’s been doing this for 60 years—what I’m trying to do, the field I’m trying to be part of is, I believe as he does, extraordinary. And, that’s inspiring.
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Keep your head down, strive for balance, and walk with one foot in front of the other.
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